When becoming the most genuine version of ourself there are many factors at play.  Some of these factors are true obstacles, real tangible things like people, culture, or society.  Other factors could be physical or mental challenges that we personally deal with.  Still, additional barriers might stem from any childhood trauma that we endured.  All […]

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Musings, Perspective

The Journey to Authenticity

After my husband and I jointly decided to pursue my journey as a surrogate, our kids were the first family members to tell. They are good at not sharing things that we are not ready to share as a family, so I trusted them with this “secret” from the first stages of planning.  Early on, […]

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Surrogacy, Uncategorized

Family Reactions & The Influence of Growing Up Mormon

My mother taught me at a young age that sharing your life story is fun.  I grew up watching my mother chat with grocery clerks, bank tellers, and even door-to-door salespeople.  My siblings and I joke about our mother’s unabashed storytelling, or as some may put it, over-sharing.  In reality, though, I know that she […]

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Surrogacy

Telling My Friends

The first major step in a surrogacy journey, after the medical screenings and tracking down the birth records of previously born children, is to choose the person or couple to embark on this journey with.  But even before doing that, I had to decide how to go about finding who to match with.  I learned […]

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Surrogacy

Making a Match

I thought many of my readers would be wondering about the basic to-do list for a GC, so I put together this quick overview. Decide to become a surrogate (husband thinks you’re a bit crazy, but the idea grows on him) Make a choice to go independent or use an agency (I chose Independent because […]

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Surrogacy, Uncategorized

Surrogacy Timeline: Quick Overview

I read through countless stories of joy, friendship, and love.  The immense weight of what I was embarking on began to set in.  Speaking to my match I got excited about being part of someone else’s story in such an intimate and real way.  A surrogate’s path is called a journey, and while money may have been the sign at the trailhead of my journey, I know that the relationships we are building will be the beauty we find along the trail.

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Surrogacy

How I Chose to Become a Surrogate

There was a mother in our southern California town who changed the course of my parenting trajectory by stepping in before I “rescued” my 6-year old, Ethan from a simple life lesson.  When my oldest was in 1st grade, our daily morning routine included him grabbing his packed lunch and backpack, loading it into the […]

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Parenting

Breaking The Mom Code

With the eyes of his little brother and two 10-year old girls on him, Ethan’s heart began to pound as he realized the pickle that he had gotten himself into.   Eight months out of the year the sunshine in Texas allows children to run around outside, roam from lawn to lawn, climb huge pecan […]

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Parenting, Sex Education

Neighborhood Gossip

Each stage of childhood requires new creativity and ingenuity from us, the parents, because our children are at a new level of cognitive understanding, and in my case, a new level of hormones.  My children are 13 (boy), 10 (boy), and 8 (girl), all three of them seem to be entering puberty at the same […]

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Life-Skills Education, Parenting

Conflict Resolution

Don’t worry readers, they didn’t stop there.  “But what about porn” They are both wondering.  My oldest chimes in, working from his earlier thought, “should we wait to watch porn until after have we have sex.  That way we can learn from our natural instincts.”

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Parenting, Sex Education

An Analogy to the Rescue

take time to challenge your own views of the world.  try to understand why others do what they do, where they are coming from, and why they hold their beliefs.

- tara